Media personality Simi Sanya has sparked conversations online after sharing her opinion on expectations around cooking in relationships, insisting that being in a relationship does not automatically make someone responsible for cooking for their partner.
Speaking during a discussion, Sanya challenged the idea that girlfriends should regularly visit their partners’ homes to prepare meals simply because they are dating. Her comments have since gained traction across social media, with many Nigerians weighing in on the debate.
She said, “You can’t tell me to come to your house over the weekend and be cooking for you because we’re in a relationship, was that the plan? No? Didn’t I tell you before?”
Simi Sanya opens up about cooking after marriage
While explaining her position, Sanya also revealed that her cooking skills remain limited even after getting married, adding that it has never caused issues in her home.
She stated, “Like me now in my marriage, I only know how to cook spaghetti and yam and egg, bread and tea and the boy has know and he hasn’t fought me since I got married he has been eating the spaghetti with all goodness in his heart. Did he die?”
Her remarks appeared to emphasise that successful relationships and marriages should not be built solely around traditional expectations of domestic responsibilities.
Comments spark debate on relationship expectations
Sanya’s comments have generated mixed reactions online, with some social media users agreeing that cooking should not be treated as an obligation in dating relationships.
Others argued that partners should willingly support one another regardless of traditional gender roles, while some maintained that cooking remains an important expression of care in many relationships.
The discussion continues to fuel broader conversations about evolving relationship expectations, shared responsibilities and individual choices within modern Nigerian marriages.
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“In my marriage, I only know how to cook spaghetti, yam and egg, and bread and tea.😭 My husband knows that’s all I can make, and we’ve never fought over it. He eats everything I cook with love.”
— Simi Sanya pic.twitter.com/5bq7SqabfK
— carter🌚 (@carter8f) July 21, 2026
