- A father regrets buying apartments for his children, fearing it hampers their character development and living with others in the world
- He argued mortgages teach resilience, while easy gifts create entitlement and lack of gratitude in people who also don’t know the value of hard work
- True support involves allowing children to face challenges, fostering independence and grit in them as they char their path towards success
A man who bought apartments for all his children has said that he now deeply regrets the move after it emerged that they were handing them a cage with golden bars.
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Alextop1972 has said that they bought houses for their children to spare them 20 years of having to deal with mortgages but it turned out that when you solve a grown person’s problem before they’ve lived through it themselves — you’re not stealing their mortgage you’re stealing their character.
“A man who clawed his way to his own place is a different man. He knows the worth of every square foot. He lay awake at night doing the math, he denied himself, he got angry, he grew. A mortgage isn’t about concrete. It’s about twenty years that break the boy down and forge him into a man,” said Alextop1972.
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“And you went and pulled that backbone right out, with love and the best intentions. And now you sit there baffled: why is he so listless, why does he want nothing, why does he look at life like it’s something owed to him on a silver platter. Because you taught him that. You delivered once — and installed the program: “someone else will handle it for me,”he added.
Were Alextop1972’s kids grateful?
Alextop1972 also decried the fact that there was no gratitude from the kids, as a gift that came without a fight doesn’t register in the brain as value.
“It registers as background noise, as air. Nobody thanks you for air; strong families aren’t built on a parent bending their back to carry the load. They’re built on a parent standing beside you, saying: you’ve got this, I believe in you,”he said.
“Support isn’t a replacement; it’s a presence. Loving your kid doesn’t mean clearing every stone off their path. Sometimes the most fatherly thing you can do is let him trip and get back up on his own. Money gets passed down. Grit doesn’t. Everyone has to earn that themselves, in their own trench,” he added.
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