A Nigerian woman has stirred mixed reactions on social media after advising women not to love their husbands, arguing that it is not a wife’s responsibility to love her spouse.
According to her, many women are unhappy in their marriages because they have taken on what she described as the man’s role while neglecting their own responsibilities.
In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), she said:
“Please don’t love your husband. I’m repeating myself. Please, I’m begging you in the name of God as a woman, don’t love your husband. It’s not your responsibility to love your husband. It’s the duty of the man to love you.”
She maintained that a woman’s primary responsibility in marriage is to respect her husband and give him peace of mind, insisting that love should come from the man.
The lady further claimed that when a man genuinely loves his wife, submission and respect from the woman will come naturally without being forced.
“Your own duty as a woman is to respect your husband and give him peace of mind. When you give that man those two, he will love you unconditionally.
As a man, when you love your wife, submission comes naturally. You don’t need to force it or ask for respect,” she added.
Her remarks have generated heated debate online, with some people agreeing with her perspective on gender roles in marriage, while others insisted that love, respect and commitment should be mutual between both husband and wife.
Watch the video below…
“As a wife, it is not your duty to love your husband. Your own responsibility is just to respect him” — Marriage Expert reveals
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